Letting go

Letting go just happens. Yet often times it is extraordinarily difficult for us complex human types.

We can't just make ourselves let go. How many of us have felt frustration arise with exhortations of others - or our own - "Release"! "Relax"! And we immediately feel incapable of so doing.

Fear of falling is fundamental and ruptures our ability to find ease in relating with ground, to letting go. Ruptures arise from an actual fall - whether a release of parental support as a tiny baby, a slip down the stairs, a faint or a traumatic brain injury.

Metaphorical falls affect us too - our psycho-emotional ground can be taken away . A loved one dying, losing our home, being attacked or humiliated in some way all can rip ground from us. I'd suggest that even spiritual connection, sensing into a deepening connection with soul and spirit can being us teetering to an edge, face to face with this primal fear.

Ida Rolf concerned herself with the sense of security that can arise when we find support from the gravitational pull of the world.

Rolfers help clients find ways of giving weight, finding more ease in connecting to ground. As this ease becomes more natural we can start to build more trust into support. We can shift from gripping our bones with tight muscles and will power, to releasing to the support of earth, and the support of the space within and around us. Breath arises moving body inside and out, tissues become more resilient and balanced, presence is easier. Letting go.

Our relationship to the earth ... provides a fundamental sense of security. This secure sense is basic to further development. If it is not optimal than all our other relationships will be affected. People who experience gravitational insecurity feel a deep reluctance to let go along with an intense fear of falling. They endure the pull which earth's gravity exerts as a primal threat. Psychological dramas may unfold in an attempt to process this primarily physiological fear. Words of encouragement or rewards usually are of little help in dispelling the demons of gravitational insecurity. Carol Agneesens.

Autumn is the season of letting go. Paying attention we can feel the trees turning energy inwards, we see the leaves loosing their plump vitality of May time, tipping into yellow. Windy days rip leaves from trees and a few begin to scatter downwards. As the season continues the letting go becomes easier. A breath of air, a sigh out and cascades of red, orange and brown lay around the trees, ready to rot down bringing nourishing and renewal.